I empathise despite being a cis-woman in a hetero-“normal” relationship.
Had a heart to heart with my husband recently where I realized my “you never compliment me” complaint was because when he did I said he was stupid/blind/wrong for thinking I’m beautiful.
I’m learning to take the compliment but damn, it’s hard.
Oh and btw I think you’re freaking adorbs and perfect for hugging and squee worthy (seriously I showed your picture to my husband and went “SAM IS CUTE LIKE SIMON AMSTELL FROM NEVER MIND THE BUZZCOCKS!” which confused him as he had asked me what I want for breakfast.)
Yeah, no, this is my life. Right here. I often feel like I’ve brainwashed my girlfriend because I have no freaking clue what she sees in me. But she says she feels the same way. But maybe that’s just a thing that happens with a lot of insecure trans people.
I know exactly how you feel. I’m gender queer, but I was born female and I usually present female, except for my natural facial hair (that my trans boyfriend is so jealous of). I fear that if my boyfriend and I broke up, no one else would be interested in me, unless I pretended to be something I’m not. I make a fat, ugly, hairy woman, I like my boobs and skirts too much to try to be a man all the time, and I’m always afraid to tell my friends, even my trans friends, that I’m genderqueer, because I feel like they’ll think I’m cheating. That I want to be trans so bad I’m pretending, or that I don’t want to admit that I’m trans. My boyfriend loves me the way I am, he genuinely finds me attractive, but I’m pretty sure that’s because I somehow cast a spell on him… And while I have never gotten anything but complete acceptance from the friends I’ve come out to, that still doesn’t keep me from feeling like other people will think I’m a faker…
I empathise despite being a cis-woman in a hetero-“normal” relationship.
Had a heart to heart with my husband recently where I realized my “you never compliment me” complaint was because when he did I said he was stupid/blind/wrong for thinking I’m beautiful.
I’m learning to take the compliment but damn, it’s hard.
Oh and btw I think you’re freaking adorbs and perfect for hugging and squee worthy (seriously I showed your picture to my husband and went “SAM IS CUTE LIKE SIMON AMSTELL FROM NEVER MIND THE BUZZCOCKS!” which confused him as he had asked me what I want for breakfast.)
Yeah, no, this is my life. Right here. I often feel like I’ve brainwashed my girlfriend because I have no freaking clue what she sees in me. But she says she feels the same way. But maybe that’s just a thing that happens with a lot of insecure trans people.
a) Hoo boy, I know that feeling…
b) I am a queer man, and you sir, are VERY attractive 😉
love it, especially the part with the queer man – that is what I worry about the most right now. a
I know exactly how you feel. I’m gender queer, but I was born female and I usually present female, except for my natural facial hair (that my trans boyfriend is so jealous of). I fear that if my boyfriend and I broke up, no one else would be interested in me, unless I pretended to be something I’m not. I make a fat, ugly, hairy woman, I like my boobs and skirts too much to try to be a man all the time, and I’m always afraid to tell my friends, even my trans friends, that I’m genderqueer, because I feel like they’ll think I’m cheating. That I want to be trans so bad I’m pretending, or that I don’t want to admit that I’m trans. My boyfriend loves me the way I am, he genuinely finds me attractive, but I’m pretty sure that’s because I somehow cast a spell on him… And while I have never gotten anything but complete acceptance from the friends I’ve come out to, that still doesn’t keep me from feeling like other people will think I’m a faker…
THIS COMIC IS MY LIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIFFFFFFFFFFFFFFEEEEEEEEEEEEE
This. A million times this.
<3 this, thankyou 🙂