Your comics are always really awesome even when the thematic isn’t happy and it’s so true than in mainstream media the bad or the victim is almost always a reprsentative of a minority.
*Waves* Hi there, I just wanted to say thank you for the effort that you’ve poured into these comics and for sharing them with us as a portal into your life. I’m still going through the archives, and it will take me a while to get through the entire catalog… @_@
I have to say though, I feel I need to confess something. This is something that happened years ago, but even today I’ll occasionally think about it and immediately headdesk multiple times to make sure that I’ve driven the stupid out of my head… at least until the next time that I remember this incident.
Even though I’m a mostly cis-gendered individual who has never really identified as gay or even bi, I wound up being a big supporter of LGBT issues over the course of my adolescence… mostly because of Buffy the Vampire Slayer (<3 Willow and Tara!). So imagine my surprise one day a year or so after high school when, while working at the drive-through window of a fast food restaurant, someone whom I now assume was a trans-man came to the window.
For context, although I lived a half-hour's drive away from one of the largest metropolitan areas in the entire south, the suburb town I was living in may as well have been a queer exclusionary zone for just how invisible/non-existent the queer community was there. So to have someone who was "family" come to my little corner of my little republican town was exciting to me. Even more so considering that I had recently discovered live performances of the Rocky Horror Picture Show and the wonderful world of gender-fuck expression.
So this person came up to the window, and in a rush of excitement and trying to express a way of saying "hey, I know that you don't know me, but I'm actually kind of a semi-honorary member of your club!", I wound up handing this person hir order… and asking if zhe was a boy or a girl. I don't actually remember what answer I got, I just remember immediately knowing as soon as the words left my mouth that I'd made a huge mistake, and wanting to crawl into a hole.
I was mostly well-intentioned, and yet I had painfully reminded that trans-person of something zhe didn't want to be bothered by. In a cripplingly awkward and totally inappropriate way. Just because zhe didn't fit my expectations of gender expression.
I know that there's almost no possible way that you were that transman, but still, I feel I need to apologize to all of trans-kind. So,
I'm sorry. I'm trying to be less of a douche every day, but that doesn't excuse my behavior.
…anyways. *coughs*. Thank you for listening to my sad story, and please continue to bring us your comics about a couple of dudes just trying to make it in the world.
Ohhh it’s so hard when you want to show that you’re an ally and it doesn’t go as intended – that stuff is rough, but it’s half the battle just to recognise the awkwardness I reckon. Also – I love willow and Tara, I’m rewatching the entire buffy series at the moment – LOVE LOVE LOVE.
I read potroast as “protoast”, as in supporting twice-cooked bread 🙂
I really enjoy your comics. Your drawing style is very unique.
I am also Pro Toast!
You have five fingers!
Ten, in fact!
I think I’m going to love this!
Hoorah!
Your comics are always really awesome even when the thematic isn’t happy and it’s so true than in mainstream media the bad or the victim is almost always a reprsentative of a minority.
Lots of love form Spain
Aw thanks! Yes, I get so bored of the tropes of mainstream media stuff when it comes to ‘minority’ depictions.
*Waves* Hi there, I just wanted to say thank you for the effort that you’ve poured into these comics and for sharing them with us as a portal into your life. I’m still going through the archives, and it will take me a while to get through the entire catalog… @_@
I have to say though, I feel I need to confess something. This is something that happened years ago, but even today I’ll occasionally think about it and immediately headdesk multiple times to make sure that I’ve driven the stupid out of my head… at least until the next time that I remember this incident.
Even though I’m a mostly cis-gendered individual who has never really identified as gay or even bi, I wound up being a big supporter of LGBT issues over the course of my adolescence… mostly because of Buffy the Vampire Slayer (<3 Willow and Tara!). So imagine my surprise one day a year or so after high school when, while working at the drive-through window of a fast food restaurant, someone whom I now assume was a trans-man came to the window.
For context, although I lived a half-hour's drive away from one of the largest metropolitan areas in the entire south, the suburb town I was living in may as well have been a queer exclusionary zone for just how invisible/non-existent the queer community was there. So to have someone who was "family" come to my little corner of my little republican town was exciting to me. Even more so considering that I had recently discovered live performances of the Rocky Horror Picture Show and the wonderful world of gender-fuck expression.
So this person came up to the window, and in a rush of excitement and trying to express a way of saying "hey, I know that you don't know me, but I'm actually kind of a semi-honorary member of your club!", I wound up handing this person hir order… and asking if zhe was a boy or a girl. I don't actually remember what answer I got, I just remember immediately knowing as soon as the words left my mouth that I'd made a huge mistake, and wanting to crawl into a hole.
I was mostly well-intentioned, and yet I had painfully reminded that trans-person of something zhe didn't want to be bothered by. In a cripplingly awkward and totally inappropriate way. Just because zhe didn't fit my expectations of gender expression.
I know that there's almost no possible way that you were that transman, but still, I feel I need to apologize to all of trans-kind. So,
I'm sorry. I'm trying to be less of a douche every day, but that doesn't excuse my behavior.
…anyways. *coughs*. Thank you for listening to my sad story, and please continue to bring us your comics about a couple of dudes just trying to make it in the world.
-Ry
Ohhh it’s so hard when you want to show that you’re an ally and it doesn’t go as intended – that stuff is rough, but it’s half the battle just to recognise the awkwardness I reckon. Also – I love willow and Tara, I’m rewatching the entire buffy series at the moment – LOVE LOVE LOVE.
Sometimes the “three strikes” rule feels more like two strikes…
Making more media variety by contributing is always a good thing! 🙂